SAYING SORRY

I have yet to find another more important virtue in marriage that will keep it on track for sustained happiness. There is this important virtue of repentance and saying sorry.
Most families today are struggling with forgiveness. Pride has overtaken husbands and wives to the extent that couples are no longer apologetic and sincere with each other. You find so many couple struggling with stress and bitterness over unforgiveness and non repentance. I don't want to appear biased but this is an issue that is mainly affecting the husbands.
There is a reason why God advises to forgive unceasingly and also to confess our sins to one another so that there will be healing and restoration. James 5: ¹⁶ Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective. 
This is how i would describe repentance that is effective between husband and wife.

• Tell your spouse that you are sorry from the bottom of your heart and mean it.
• Go ahead then and describe what exactly you are sorry for. List the issues you have wronged your spouse in detail.
• Re-assure your partner that you are going to change and not repeat the wrongs you have done.
• Your spouse should now go ahead and forgive you. 

Well, this is what genuine repentance should be; the kind that will bring healing and restoration to the marriage and renew the happiness. 
Many times spouses say sorry for the sake of saying it and then go ahead to do the same mistakes and then say sorry again. This is very bad in marriage and can destroy it. It's good in marriage not to take each other for granted. The real root cause for such pathetic situations in marriage is most times the failure for couples to have genuine repentance and forgiveness for one another.


Believe it or not but SAYING SORRY is one of the biggest pillars in marriage. You need to ask yourself as a partner in marriage of the benefits you get from repentance versus non repentance. If you hurt your spouse for any reason, you are not doing any good in your marriage. It does not add any value to you if you remain in your pride and unbrokenness to repent and forgive each other in marriage but it will always add a lot of happiness and healing to the marriage if couples remain repentant.